CENTERS' PIECE: Youth suicide often leaves more questions than answers

The community has become understandably concerned and alarmed by the recent spike in youth suicides. Many groups are mobilizing and making concerted, positive efforts to address this problem, with hopes of preventing future tragedies.

However, the reality is that the issue of suicide often leaves us with more questions than answers. What led this young person to make this decision? Was there anything anyone could have done to prevent it? Why is this happening at such an alarming rate? Is there a connection among these recent losses? What can be done to raise awareness and prevent future tragedies?

One of the most difficult things about this type of loss is that the majority of the “whys” and “whats” cannot be answered. But awareness can be raised and families, friends, and other important people in a kid’s life can be educated and empowered so that future loss can be minimized.

Suicide in teens is not just a growing problem in the Permian Basin. Some research indicates that there are as many as 500,000 suicide attempts in teens each year in the United States. Although suicide is not as common in younger kids, children as young as 5 or 6 will make statements about suicide, wanting to die or wanting to harm themselves.

A large percentage of youth who contemplate suicide are also struggling with a related mood disorder like depression or anxiety. The encouraging news is that help is available if a mood disorder is identified. Counseling, and medication when necessary, has proven to be effective means of treating these challenges. Studies have shown a 70 to 80 percent reduction in depressive and anxiety symptoms when appropriate therapeutic interventions have been utilized.

So if you are wondering if a child in your life may have a mood disorder, here are some things to keep an eye on:

• Changes in eating or sleep patterns.
• Withdrawing socially.
• Large changes in personality.
• Engaging in high risk behavior.
• Increase in physical complaints (headaches, stomach problems, etc.)
• Decline in school performance.
• Irritability and anger.
• Easily stressed out and overwhelmed.

Although not a comprehensive list, these are some of the more common concerns parents will notice before a mood disorder is identified. Parents should also be aware that if there is a family history of mood disorders, then there is a higher likelihood that children from these families will also struggle with a mood related problem. Good news, parents — this does not mean your child will definitely struggle with depression or anxiety. But pay extra attention at any hint of mood related struggles in your child.

Another question that can be answered is “do thoughts of suicide always accompany depression”. The answer is no. Many people struggle with depression and/or anxiety and never have a thought related to wanting to die.

Again, the good news is that help is available. Counseling and medication can help alleviate the symptoms associated with mood disorders. If your child is struggling in this area, consult your physician or a counselor. Your child may express some resistance about seeing a counselor or a doctor so be prepared to make the appointment not optional.

Finally, once parents know what symptoms to watch for in their children, they also want to know how they can help. First, get your child talking. Don’t worry about being invasive or too pushy. The majority of kids I talk to who are depressed have stopped sharing their worries with a trusted adult. Most internalize and have stopped talking about what is troubling them. Depression has convinced them that their problems are insurmountable and that others would not understand. And in extreme cases, suicide seems to be a realistic solution.

If you have questions or are interested in counseling, please contact Centers for Children and Families at 580-7006 in Odessa or 570-1084 in Midland.